Ground wars
From the always thoughtful and insightful divorce blog, Domestic Diversions, a comment on teenagers and the divorce process/aftermath.
Withholding information from one parent to avoid punishment or to solidify a relationship with another parent. Children can gain an upper hand by controlling information flow because, following a separation or divorce, there is often reduced communication between parents.
Moving from one home to another. Children often move into the home of the parent who is less controlling. They do this to punish the other parent or to escape a situation they don’t like.
Parents are often coconspirators in this process, not realizing the damage they can inflict on their kids. The kids who I have seen do the best post-divorce are the one where the parents act like adults, even if they cannot take life with eachother anymore, they still maintain a solid front to their kids.
